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Zizz – a Bonus Benefit of Hypnobabies

Saturday, April 30th, 2011

In case you are wondering what a zizz is -

zizz

1. a nap; “Sheridan’s taking a short zizz”

One of my favorite things about practicing Hypnobabies while pregnant with Thing 3, was taking a “nap” every day while I practiced.

 

I get tired during the day while pregnant.  Without a nap I was pretty useless in the afternoon and evening.

So I wouldSleeping

  • lock the front door
  • put T1 and T2 in front of a 30 minute PBS show
  • I would run lumber up the stairs
  • and listen to sleep through a Hypnobabies Track
  • wake up refreshed and ready for the rest of the day

Days I didn’t get my Zizz were sad days indeed.

Some moms worry it won’t work if they sleep through a track.   Well, I can reassure you it will!

Yoga – Best Exercise for Prenatal Time?

Friday, April 29th, 2011

Yes.

Prenatal yoga

eXternal Version and Beautiful Birth Story

Thursday, April 28th, 2011

I was so happy when I reader offered to share her story of her external version for my X day.  I had not thought of a good topic for today.  So here is Sarah’s story of how her home birth was almost derailed by a breech baby, but how an external version helped her baby turn head down.  She went on to have a wonderful home birth. Thanks Sarah for sharing!

I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on January 25, 2011 at home. We named her Nellie Joy. Her birth was intense, exhilarating and beautiful…but it almost didn’t happen the way we planned.

 

This is Nellie’s story.

My first baby was born in the hospital. It was a typical hospital birth. We had taken Bradley classes and hoped for a natural birth but I was forced into an induction 41 weeks, 4 days. I was given cervidil, then pitocin, had my membranes ruptured, got an epidural, and pushed out a healthy baby boy. Many would call my son’s birth “normal” but I found it to be traumatic in that none of the decisions that were made about my care (or his for that matter) were left up to me. I felt powerless, out of control, and hopeless for most of my hospital stay. I spent many weeks in therapy to help me process the experience which was very healing.

So when I became pregnant the second time, I knew that I wanted something different, and my husband and I decided to have a home birth. We found a very competent Certified Professional Midwife, began prenatal care, and everything went along just fine without any complications. I began the Hypnobabies home study course and felt completely prepared for a natural birth. Then one night at 37 weeks, just before Christmas, while lying on my left side in bed, I felt the baby moving a lot and felt a lot of pressure on my left hip bone. I didn’t think anything of it until 2 days later at my prenatal appt. when our midwife, Liz, was palpating my belly and asked “Has this baby had any big movements lately?” She was having trouble determining the baby’s position with just her hands so we agreed to do an ultrasound. The ultrasound confirmed my worst fear…our baby had turned breech in my ninth month of pregnancy, after being head down all along.

With only 2 weeks until my due date, I immediately began doing everything I could to turn the baby. I did breech tilt and inversion exercises twice a day, listened to the Hypnobabies “Turn your breech baby” track, visited the Chiropractor every other day, and prayed, prayed, prayed.

 

But after a week went by with no success, we met with our midwife and discussed our options. Proceed with a home birth of a vaginal breech baby? Our midwife was willing to do it, but my husband and I weren’t sure we wanted to risk it. Our baby was complete breech with her feet down and my son had been born with a large head, in the 97th percentile, so that concerned us. And we live in a state where CPMs are technically illegal, so we didn’t want to risk a breech birth and have our midwife be prosecuted for it. Schedule a cesarean? It seemed so drastic after planning a home birth…not to mention it brought with it so many risks.

I decided I wanted to try an external version. Thankfully, we found a doctor who was willing to do one for us. He practiced in another state and our midwife had transferred patients to his practice before so we trusted his judgment. We decided that if the version was unsuccessful that we would go ahead and proceed with a cesarean section that day. I felt that if our birth had to be by cesarean, I didn’t want it to be an emergency, and I wanted this doctor, whom I trusted, to perform it, so I felt it was best for me not to wait until I went into labor.

On January 6th we checked into the hospital. The night before my husband read me the Change of Plans script. It helped me to cope with all of the emotions I was feeling. I needed my Bubble of Peace as soon as we got to the hospital. There was a problem with my paperwork and everybody kept saying I was a “scheduled Cesarean.” I had to keep telling them that we were there for an external version- I didn’t want to keep hearing them say “cesarean.” A nurse came in and put me on the monitor and told me that when she was pregnant her babies were breech, and she had tried versions but they were unsuccessful. Again, Bubble of Peace. I didn’t need to hear her negativity!

Next came an IV. It would have been a nightmare had it not been for my Peace cue. It took 5 attempts to get my IV started. I was so dehydrated from not having anything to eat or drink (I had to prepare as if I might have a cesarean) and the nurse had trouble finding my veins. I just kept saying to myself “peace, peace, peace” and I got through it. The nurse remarked on how impressive my composure was.

The doctor arrived and performed an ultrasound. Our baby was indeed still breech, in the complete breech position with knees bent and feet at the bottom. The baby was mostly on my left side with a lot of open space on the right, so the doctor said he would try to get the baby to do a forward roll into the extra fluid on my right side.  I was given a shot of turbutaline to relax my uterus since I was having a lot of Braxton Hicks contractions, probably from dehydration. My husband and I said a quiet prayer together, that my baby and I would be safe no matter what the outcome.

When it came time for the version, my husband and doula stood at my side. I used my finger drop and immediately went OFF, completely loose and limp. The doctor squirted a lot of jelly on my belly and began firmly, but gently, moving our baby with his hands. Within a minute the baby was transverse. He checked the baby’s heart tones and continued. Another minute and a half later our baby was head down. The entire process had taken less than 5 minutes. I could hardly believe it- it happened so easily! I opened my eyes and the first person I saw was our nurse Amy. She winked at me. I smiled back at her with relief.

The doctor stayed and chatted with us for awhile after the version. We decided to keep the baby on the monitor for 4 hours, just to make sure the version hadn’t caused any stress, and then we could go back home. He said that my relaxation during the version was crucial to its success. The doctor said that my “abdominal muscles felt like butter” and “wherever you were, Hawaii, Cancun, wherever, I’d like to be there too!” I was able to be that relaxed because of my Hypnobabies training.

We went back home and waited for labor to begin. Nineteen long days later, at 42 weeks, 2 days, the Braxton Hicks contractions I’d been feeling for months finally turned into labor. It began around 6 in the morning. I took a shower, ate breakfast, and called my sister to come pick up our son. I listened to my favorite CD and walked around the house-it was much too cold to walk outside. When a pressure wave would come, I stopped and leaned on my husband for support. He would whisper relaxation cues into my ear and sway me gently from side to side. It was very romantic. We ate lunch and watched a funny TV show. Around 1 I decided to go try to rest. I put on my Deepening CD and feel asleep for at least 20 straight minutes without a wave, it felt so nice.

When I woke up from my nap we were ready for our doula to come. We stayed upstairs in the bedroom with the lights low. I sat on my birth ball and leaned into a stack of pillows during my pressure waves. She warmed a rice sack in the microwave and put it on my back which felt really nice. Around 5 I had a wave that double peaked and thought “uh oh!” Our midwife Liz wasn’t there yet and we hadn’t made the bed! I was so calm and comfortable that I had no idea how far along I was. My husband and doula called Liz, made up the bed and by the time she got there I was in full-on transition. It was very intense, and I was struggling to cope. I began to feel a lot of pressure during my waves. A few more went by and I realized I was holding my breath and bearing down at the top of them. I said to Liz “I think I’m pushing.” I then had my first and only vaginal exam. Liz said all that she could feel was my baby’s head so I was free to push however I’d like to.

I began pushing on my side but didn’t feel like it was effective. Liz suggested hands and knees so I tried that. With the first push in that position my water broke. I was glad that it had remained intact for so long, protecting my baby. I pushed a few more times and began to feel discouraged. Everyone there was encouraging to me to keep going, that I was doing fine. My husband got in front of me on the bed and I clung to him, drawing strength from him to keep pushing. I looked him in the eye and said “Honey, I don’t think I can do it.” He said “You ARE doing it. I know you can.”

 

I pushed awhile longer but still felt so discouraged and unsure. I didn’t realize how close I was. Liz said, “Sarah, feel this baby. Push this baby into your hands!” I reached down and felt a smooth round head about to crown. With the next push I was crowning. I began to use my Hypnobabies tools again which allowed me to breathe the baby out. We have it on video and it is very beautiful to see how slowly and gently the head came out. The shoulders came out a few seconds later and the baby slid out. I sat back on my heels and there in front of me on the bed was a beautiful baby GIRL…that part was a surprise J I was so happy and so grateful. I said “Thank you Jesus for this girl!” and clutched her to my chest. It was one of the best days of my life.

 

Weddings and Births

Wednesday, April 27th, 2011

It is interesting if a woman has things go wrong during her wedding, she gets a lot of sympathy. But if a woman has a negative birth experience, she often gets little support.

I like this post by Michele where she points out how supportive others are if a woman has a bad wedding experience (photographer doesn’t come, etc) but gets little sympathy if their birth doesn’t go as hoped for.

The moms who have a negative birth experience are told

“You have your baby. That is all that matters.”

IMG_2339webWell, you could say to the woman with a wedding disaster,

“Well you are married, that is all that matters.”

That would be considered horrible by most to say that to a woman who falls into a pool during her ceremony – or whose florist loses her flowers.

Money

I do find it ironic that women will spend thousands and thousands of dollars and spend MONTHS planning for their wedding. Yet most women spend as little as possible to have a baby.

Many women want homebirth, but are unwilling to pay a few thousand dollars out of pocket for it. Other moms want a doula, but are unwilling to spend the money on that. I am always curious how much these women spent on their wedding.

I feel for moms who are struggling financially. But after seeing my student G. who was struggling financially,

  • made choices to take my class (which I gave her a discount on, because she asked)
  • and then they chose to have a homebirth midwife last minute, despite the cost.

I thought if SHE can do it, because it means that much to her, anyone can do it. It is about choices, priorities.

Time

Most women spend relatively little time (compared to the time they spend on preparing for a wedding) on preparing for birth, choosing a care provider and birth location.

 

Special Day – excitement or fear?

A wedding is a special day, something most little girls dream about their whole lives and they usually only have one wedding day. So it is certainly well worth the time and money. The energy they put into planning their special day helps them look forward to it with excitement. They have done all they can do to make it special. Yes there are things outside their control (the weather, florists etc) but they can enjoy the day, knowing they have prepared.

A birthing day should be a special day too, a woman will probably have only 1-4 of these days in her life. I wish all little girls dreamed about their birthing days their whole life, some probably do, but most probably fear it. Which makes me very sad.

I have seen many moms who fear birth, take Hypnobabies and it helps them to change their perceptions about birth and look forward to their birthing day! That of course makes me happy.

A birthing day should be a day in which a mother is respected and honored, one in which she should get the best care possible. It is certainly worth the time and money and energy to prepare for it.

What are you willing to do?

If you are an expecting mom, think about what you did to create the best wedding possible. What are you willing to do to create the best birth possible?

It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, check some books out of the library, learn about your choices, find the best care provider and birth location for you, find a doula in training.

It will take time and effort.

It will be worth it, because you will feel empowered and excited and you will have the best birth possible.

VBAC – Vaginal Birth After Cesarean – my favorite posts

Tuesday, April 26th, 2011
  • I am a VBACtivist (one who supports VBACs)
  • I have had 2 VBACs.
  • I love being a doula at VBACs.
  • I have lots of posts about VBACs.

Here are some of my favorites.

Moms who made big sacrifices, really had to stand up for themselves to have their VBACs.

Moving 3 hours away for a supportive care provider.

How about traveling 1/2 way around the world?

VBAC after 4 cesareans.

A doctor who surprises herself by having a VBA2C

Mom gets hospital policy changed for her VBAC.

OB drops mom at 40 weeks for refusing cesarean.  She finds another care provider to support her.

Mom VBACs a over 10 pound baby.

Most Inspirational VBAC story ever.

Resources for VBAC moms.

VBAC Mom Resources

VBAC Facts – one of my favorite sites.

 

Ultrasounds – Fun or Frightening?

Monday, April 25th, 2011

Ultrasound Scanning 2006-05-05
I think Ultrasounds are an area of obstetrics that really need to be studied.

They have NOT been Proven Safe

There have been NO studies that show they are safe.  There are issues brought up that cause concern.

If women were told this information, they may be more conservative in getting them.

There are certain high-risk pregnancies where multiple ultrasounds are warranted.

But for most low-risk moms ONE ultrasound around 20 weeks is sufficient.

Are ultrasounds safe?

The easy answer.  We DON’T KNOW!

That scares me.

It scares me more that moms don’t know that we don’t know if it is safe or not.

Anything more than one 20 week ultrasound should have a good medical reason to do it.

Since we don’t know if it is safe or not, why expose your baby to something risky unless there is a very good reason?

If your care provider is suggesting multiple ultrasounds, ASK why!  Some will automatically do one every visit, on every mom!

Here are 2 good articles to get more information about ultrasounds.

Dr. Wagner – Are ultrasounds more harm than good?

Dr. Sarah J. Buckley – Ultrasound Scans – cause for concern.

One scary thing -

A blast of ultrasounds to the testes is believed to stop sperm production for 6 months.  What does this do to our babies?

Top Three Tips to Enjoy Your Birth

Saturday, April 23rd, 2011

I was stuck on finding something for the Letter T.

Then I remembered my book!

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STOP watching the baby Story

Friday, April 22nd, 2011

In Hypnobabies we teach moms in the very first class to stop watching birth shows.
Splashed Stops Signs

They are typically not positive, showing only the dramatic parts.

Some moms are skipping childbirth classes, feeling they learn all they need to know about birth by watching these shows.  That scares me, because they are not learning what birth is really about at all.

Do you watch these shows? What do you think about stopping?

 

Rocking Chairs

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Rocking Chair PorchThese are a few of a birthing mothers favorite places to be:

  • Rocking Chairs
  • Birth Balls
  • Showers
  • Sitting on the toilet
  • In the Bath
  • Resting on the Bed
  • Standing and leaning on Birth Partner

Have I forgotten any?

Quiet or Questions?

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Quiet PleaseSome moms love to have it quiet during their births. Any interruption can take them out of their birthing zone.

Respect a moms need for quiet.

  • Birth Partners you can answer most of the questions nurses have.
  • You can remind the nurses to stay quiet
  • Leave the TV OFFFF!!!

Simple Questions

At the same time, remember that mom may not be able to communicate really well with you, especially during transformation, so you may need to ask her simple questions. Ones she can answer with a yes or no.

  • Water? – while handing her a water cup with a straw.
  • Are you hot?
  • Want to try a different position?

Sometimes during transformation moms become very primal – like a cave-woman and can only grunt or gesture answers.  Birth partners, this can be totally normal.

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