The last birth I attended was in September. It was a lovely birth and I knew it was going to be my last one for awhile.
It was going to be a busy/crazy school year
I didn’t think I could add the uncertainty of being on call on top of all the boys activiites and school. So I had to make the decision to Just Say No to being a doula.
- My 2 youngest boys go to a charter school about 30 minutes from my house. My youngest is in Kindergarten and so is only half day, which means up to 3 drives a day. I do have an AWESOME car pool group, so I usually only have to drive 1 time a day, but I know they depend on me and so it felt like I needed to be counted on for that.
- My oldest son is in Jr. High and also in another GREAT car pool group, where I only have to drive 2 times a week. But again, I felt I needed to be reliable for that.
- Then the activities. This year the big one was T2 joined a Traveling Musical Theater group, which of course is by his school – I have a new best friend named Mini Van. At first there were lots of practices, then there were shows. I felt I needed to be reliable for that.
Dependability while on call?
You Can’t be reliable when you are on call. Your priority will be the Birthing Mom – so car pool and Musical Theater gets thrown under the bus. I couldn’t do that this year, the bus might have broken or worse a group of kids would have had to sleep at school.
In the end, it is good I wasn’t on call this school year. See all of the above and then add on a mountain bike accident where my 14 year old breaks his jaw and arm. It was better to be completely available to my family.
Repeat Client and Perfect Timing
I was enjoying life just being a mom when I got a call from a previous doula client. She was pregnant and wanted to take Hypnobabies classes and wanted me as her doula. I was so excited, but also worried about my commitments. We talked and I told her I would check my calendar and get back to her.
Her guess date was perfect! I have a trip to the LDS Holistic Living Conference planned for the end of June, I finally get to meet all the other authors from my book! Also the last Musical Theater competition was the middle of May. Her guess date fell perfectly between them. I could commit! I also prayed and felt like everything would work out perfectly. So I said YES!
It was fun having them in class and then once she was 37 weeks I found myself back on call after 8 months off.Pin It