Birth by Tina Cassidy
Who is the intended audience of this book? Care providers of pregnant women… if they actually take time to read it, the may learn something. Women of childbearing age or younger or anyone in their families…. DO NOT read this book
It is scary to read and starting with the first chapter, that alone will make you question mankind’s ability to still exist because of all the horrible things that can go wrong during birth. Most of these stories are from women who lived long ago and had Rickets, which caused bone softening and pelvic deformation. Luckily if you are reading this you most likely live in a society where Rickets no longer exists. But the fear and scariness doesn’t stop there.
As a Childbirth Educator and doula, I found it an interesting though disturbing read. It was one of those books where you are yelling at it at times. Partly because of the stupidity of what has gone on throughout the history of birth. But also party because I felt like it was SO negative. I just would NEVER let a pregnant women read it, she might go sign up for an Elective Cesarean, because the overall tone of the book is birth is scary… complete with horrific stories (mostly due to Rickets which no longer exists in America) to demonstrate it.
I did enjoy the section on the Dawn of Doctors, where I learned more about some inspired care providers and their journeys. Grantly Dick-Read who wrote Childbirth Without Fear and Fernand Lamaze were of extra interest to me as a Hypnobabies Instructor, because I learned that their teachings included a lot of mind over body thinking, as well as the importance of hospital staff supporting and believing in the moms ability to have a comfortable birth. Having been a mom using hypnosis during my 2nd birth, totally comfortable and the nurses telling me at least 3 times, as soon as your water breaks it is going to hurt… not surprisingly when my water broke it did start to hurt. When I had my 3rd baby, I used Hypnobabies and had a Bubble of Peace to protect me from the negativity of those around me, including the hospital staff.
I learned about Emanuel Friedman who watched birthing women and came up with the bell curve of the length of typical stages of birth. He is horrified on how that information is used today. “We found an average. People think the average is what women should fall upon. That is clearly not true but rather a broad range of normality beyond which a potential abnormality may or may not exist. These abnormalities are not in themselves justification for forceps or cesarean… It doesn’t’ mean she’s doing so badly that you have to do something terrible to her. That is being abused.”
So this one chapter I found to be very informative and enjoyable to read.
The tools and fads chapter was an interesting look at the different ways people dealt with and currently deal with Childbirth. It was disappointing to me how in a chapter that could have had positive parts to it… ie waterbirth, hypnosis etc, there was still an over all fear feeling to it. In the waterbirth section the main focus seemed to be on why it is fought against by many care providers, with of course stories of babies dying included.
Please if you are pregnant or ever will be do NOT read this book, it is too negative, with the exception of the Dawn of Doctors chapter, there was nothing positive I will take from this book.
I especially disliked the last 2 pages. The author looks back even after all she has learned she wouldn’t change anything about her birth… sort of defeatist attitude. (She had a very medically managed birth ending up in a cesarean,) but does concede maybe she should have chosen a midwife and had a doula.
“Women will forever give birth in many different ways – either by design or through forces out of our control. As for the latter, we can only hope to be pleasantly surprised.”
Really, I guess one might believe this after reading the book. But knowing what I know as a childbirth educator and VBAC mom, the choices we make starting with our care provider down to positions we choose during birth can make a HUGE impact on our birth.
If you want to be empowered by books about birth, I suggest reading the following instead of this one.
The Thinking Women’s Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer
Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
If you want a history about childbirth in the USA but would like to feel empowered by the knowledge rather than defeated try,
Born in the USA by Mardsen Wagner
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I was so excited to go to Belly Sprout, in Fullerton to see the Business of Being Born. I had heard good reviews of it and I love birth, so it seemed obvious I would love this film. Belly Sprout is a great little space, with natural items for babies and moms, with room in the back for classes or film screenings. It was fun meeting new people as we waited for the film to start.
The film overall was enjoyable. The intention of the film seems to be showing how homebirth can be safer and better than hospital births. There were interesting interviews and quotes throughout the movie. Some wonderful home births were shown. They were empowering to me as a natural childbirth enthusiast. These same births could be seen as scary by moms who are afraid of the pain of birth. As a Hypnobabies instructor, I know birth can actually be comfortable and enjoyable if you have the right hypnosis tools, so I wish a Hypnobabies birth had been included. I worry that some moms might see the births in this film and say that is why I am going straight for the epidural.
They did discuss some of the different problems that come up with hospital births. Including the cascade of interventions, though I wish they had been a little more explicit in that, because while as a childbirth educator I am well aware of what that entails, many women are not. It was fascinating to see OBs interviewed and when asked the question, “How often do you see a natural birth?” They were sitting there dumbfounded. The answer was basically never. My friend’s husband is doing his residency in Obstetrics and he agrees with this statement, they never see a normal, natural birth. They are taught not to be lifeguards, jumping in if something goes wrong, rather they are taught only how to actively manage birth, which leads to problems of their own. So how are they going to learn to support moms who want this?
The ending of the film ruined the whole film for me. I think it was important to show that at times it is medically better to have a hospital birth (in this case the baby was preterm and breech). This birth would have been better towards the front of the film, I am thinking after the OB says “95% of my job is boring, but then 5% is exciting/scary” Ok, show the scary birth at that point of the film, then spend the rest of the film showing the wonderful 95% that are safe at home. I think they were trying to have this moms story be one that wound its way throughout the film, but I really think its position in the movie undermines the whole purpose of the film.
Since this mom did end up with a cesarean, PLEASE use this as a chance to talk about VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) and how next time this mom can have a vaginal birth and it would be ok. Tell the world about ICAN and how it is a wonderful organization to help moms avoid cesareans or recover from them if they have one. Let this film really educated and help the world in more ways than just homebirth. It would add maybe 1 minute to the film, but would have the potential of helping thousands of women.
Overall I guess I would give the film 3 out of 5 stars. If they could edit it and change where the cesarean birth is in the film I would make it 4 out of 5. I would not recommend my Hypnobabies Moms watch it while pregnant, as I want only positive images in their mind as they prepare for their births. But I do think it would be a great film to show in a college class to help women think about births before they are in that stage of life. If we educate women earlier about their choices in birth and their power as women and mothers, we can change the world!
about What Women Aren’t Told About Childbirth.
It is talking about all the information they gathered from the Listening to Mother’s Survey.
It is such an honor to be invited by a family to support them during the birth of their child. I was lucky enough to attend 2 births this past week. While they were both long, I was energized throughout because I was at such a momentous wonderful occasion!
How can a doula benefit you?
Up until the late 1800’s women were attended to, by other women during their births. They may have been midwives or just a caring neighbor or family member. A basic belief was shared that a woman was able to give birth The same woman would stay with the mom throughout her birthing time, giving her physical and emotional support, continuing for a time afterward to make sure that the mom and baby were doing well. This continuity helped the mothers feel safe and supported in this transition from pregnancy to motherhood.
The thing that is missing from many births today is that continuity of a caring woman. It is expected that the dad can be the “coach”, but the dads often do not know what to expect any more than the moms do. They aren’t usually educated in what the typical interventions are in a hospital birth and the pros and cons of them. It is hard for them to see their partner uncomfortable and stay calm and confident. Dads often just don’t have the same kind of touch a woman would have.
Typically parents are going into an unfamiliar environment (a hospital) to have a baby, where the birth is sadly treated like a medical event instead of a life changing spiritual event. Mom is treated like a patient and is frequently forced into the hospitals and care providers routines, procedures and timelines. It is often an unknown of who will even be there when the baby is born… which Dr. will be on call, etc. The moms hope for a nice nurse (knowing the OB will just be there to “catch” the baby) to guide them, but even if they get a great nurse whom they develop a great rapport with, she has other responsibilities and patients to care for and she might have to leave because her shift is over, regardless of if her shift ends right at a crucial part of the birth.
A doula fulfills this role of being a consistent, caring, supportive person during a family’s transition from pregnancy to parenthood. She can help translate medical talk, reminding the parents of the pros and cons and natural alternatives of suggested interventions, reminding them of what they desired in their birth plan. Then the doula steps back and lets them decide what is best for them, continuing to support them with whatever they choose. A doula stays with the mom throughout the birth suggesting positional changes, giving massages, making sure she stays hydrated, empties her bladder frequently and offering emotional and other physical support. The doula continues to stay for about 1-2 hours after the baby is born to help in whatever way she can; offering breastfeeding support, getting nourishment for the mom and dad, taking pictures. If the baby needs to go to the NICU, the dad is able to go with the baby and the mom is able to have a caring supportive person with her during this difficult separation.
The main purpose of a doula is to support the mom and dad in whatever way they need during and immediately after the birth, while remaining a calm and positive presence. Depending on the couple or the situation, the doula may take more of a guiding position, where she helps the dad help the mom; if he is unsure in a situation she can offer him encouragement and give him ideas of what to do. The dad and doula make a great team, working together in supporting the mom. I was in a situation where the dad was sick with a bad cold during the birth and I took much more of an active roll, while he sat in a chair watching and offering verbal support. It was nice for him to know she was taken care of, with me giving her massages, helping her get to the bathroom, getting them both drinks and snacks (I felt like I was HIS doula too). This helped make the birth better for both of them.
My experiences have shown and studies confirm that everyone benefits when a doula attends a birth. The dad feels a weight lifted from his shoulders, he feels supported in his role and can relax and enjoy the birth more. The mothers benefit physically by having a decrease in cesarean births, decrease in some interventions such as pitocin augmentations and the length of their labors are shorter. The mothers also benefit emotionally. Studies show that mothers with doulas are more satisfied with their births than mothers without doulas. The babies benefit as studies have shown that mothers that have doulas are more likely to still be breastfeeding at 6 weeks and these mothers bond more quickly with their babies.
I think that when every birthing mother who wants a doula, has one at her birth, the childbirth climate in the USA will change for the better. Mothers will be empowered to make their own choices regarding their birth. Dads will better know how to support their partner as they make this special journey together of the birth of their baby. Birth will become a more positive experience that women look forward to with anticipation and joy.
Is that really possible? Isn’t birth scary, hard, painful, horrible?
No, it doesn’t have to be. Birth can be beautiful, wonderful, enjoyable.
How? Educate yourself, empower yourself and choose wisely who, where and when you have your baby.