Natural Birth Club or Moms Doing the Best We Can Club?

I really loved this post with a letter to The Natural Birth Club. She talks about how some moms make others feel bad because of they didn’t have Natural Childbirth.

Why do moms do this? Why can’t we just listen and support moms as they share their birth experiences?

I think this is something very important to remember. Since my first was an emergency cesarean after planning for a natural birth, her letter really resonated with me. I hope that I always try to do listen and support moms regardless of how their birth goes. I am all about mom following her intuition and making the best choice for her and her baby. That can look different for every mom and every baby.

I moderate the Hypnobabies Yahoo Group and a lot of moms come and share their birth stories. I love reading all of their stories, regardless of what path they took. Some seem apologetic and say something like, “I didn’t really have a Hypnobabies birth.” As if they had only one idea of what it would be like and if they didn’t get it, it didn’t count.

It is hard because we do talk about visualizing what you WANT and focusing on that and for many moms preparing with Hypnobabies, what they want is un-medicated birth.

While it is important to focus on what you want before the birth, it is equally important to be flexible about birth because it is unpredictable. There is no way to know what cards you will be dealt. Maybe your baby will be a surprise breech after 12 hours of labor, like Adriel’s story above.

You can’t fail at birth. If you prepare with Hypnobabies, and use your tools during your birth, you had a Hypnobabies birth. Regardless of if you chose an epidural or needed a cesarean or went un-medicated. You have had a baby, you succeeded!

Back to Adriel’s post. I am glad she wrote it, to remind us all that we are all members of the same club.

Moms doing the best we can!

(She wrote a follow up post which is just as great.)