I asked a nurse what I could have done differently during this birth. She pointed out that this nurse was probably operating from fear. Fear that something might go wrong and she would get blamed.
That helped me to reframe it a bit. I think that I need to remember my doula clients have all taken my class, so I know they KNOW it is OK to eat and drink during a birth. (More on this in my next post) So I will just stay sly about it. If mom gets caught I will stay silent and not provoke the situation by trying to educate the nurse. Because she doesn’t want to learn anything, she was just worried SHE would get in trouble. I will remember my students know the truth and can choose to believe what the nurse says, or choose to use their Bubble of Peace and eat if they are hungry and drink if they are thirsty.