I had 3 working/learning trips. Birthdays, Primary Program, helping a son with college applications and much more. I wanted to be able to do all those things from a place of peace.
I already had a daily prayer practice, but taking the time to decide what I wanted to “circle” in my prayers helped me to see all the little blessings over those 40 days. It increased my testimony of the power of prayer.
I was telling my Finding Joy in the Journey students about it and they wanted to do one too. I said we could do it together and when I looked at Thanksgiving to New Years Eve and realized that was 40 days, I knew that would be the perfect time. There is a lot on my plate for those 40 days. I will have to do it all. It will be so much better if God is helping me.
I want to open this challenge up for everyone. If you are wanting to do #LightTheWorld I am going to find a way to incorporate that. 🙂
Here are the 6 easy steps!
If you are able to, buy the book. I am going to re-read the book while I do the challenge. I will mostly share different stories than from the book and it will be short and sweet. A scripture and short thought. The book is great and will deepen your study if you want. It has 2-3 pages per chapter/topic.
Write down what you
- need to do
- want to do
- how you want to do it!
between Thanksgiving and New Years Day.
Won’t it be great to pray specifically for help with all of your things?
Add this list to your Prayer Cheat Sheet.
(Create one if you don’t have one already)
If you want support through the 40 day Journey, let me know by signing up for a daily reminders, which will include a scripture and maybe an additional thought.
Choose your favorite option:
Watch the War Room movie.
The next movie you watch should be this!!! It is ok to watch with your family. It will inspire you about the power of prayer. (It is not about “war”. It is about the battle we fight every day to protect and save our family. One of our most powerful tools is prayer and this movie demonstrates that.)
Thanksgiving Day – the 40 days begin!
- If you bought the book start reading. Read 1 short chapter a day. (2-3 pages)
- If you signed up for reminders, read scripture and positive thought every day. I promise it will be short and sweet.
- Pray every day and “circle” your list.
- Notice how God helps you! That was my favorite part, when I circled the prayer the next morning I would see so clearly how He helped me the day before.
After you give birth you will get this little squirt Peri-bottle. If you are at a hospital you get it “free”, if you have a homebirth you probably have one in your birth kit.
Great for cleaning your perineum after using the bathroom.
Well, I found something even better, that I have been using all the time, not just after having a baby. (My baby is almost 12!) It is a Travel Bidet.
What makes is so great? It has the long nozzle so you can easily reach all your parts. It has a little air lock on the bottom you can cover with your finger so water doesn’t come out when you don’t want it to.
All I have to say is I have it sitting next to my toilet all the time, ready to be used as needed.
Along with my Squatty Potty,
I would say it is a much needed supply for toileting. After baby and throughout life!
It may be my newest baby shower gift I give. Along with a copy of The Gift of Giving Life! 😉
I love doing group clearings. It is a way to help a lot of people all at once!
When I was preparing to teach my Clearing Negative Birth Experiences Class (Which you can listen to here.) I realized I wanted to do a Birth Group Clearing.
I would love for you to join in! It will be very similar to a visualization, where you get in a relaxed position and listen.
I am holding a free Birth Clearing Class this Thursday. I would love for you to join.
Click here to sign up.
I want to Enjoy Birth, but a past negative birth experience is making it hard to trust that it is possible.
I often have moms who are pregnant and nervous about their upcoming births, because of past negative birth experiences. I love working with them, because with energy work we can quickly and easily see a shift.
I have even worked with moms that want to have another child, but are having such a hard time moving past their birth that they don’t want to get pregnant. They are really stuck.
I remember being scared to have another baby after my first birth, which was traumatic for my son and I. I had to really dig deep to be brave enough to get pregnant. I was so worried the pregnancy and birth would be a repeat of the first experience. Even though I logically knew that probably wouldn’t happen, the fear was there.
Once I was actually pregnant, then I had to face the birth. I searched out tools to help me move past the fear. At the time I used hypnosis to help me shift. I think that is a powerful tool. I still suggest moms use hypnosis. Since birthing that baby (T3), I discovered energy work, which works faster and is an easier tool to help clear negative experiences. Now, I also use Energy Work to help moms release their negative experiences and get into a grounded more positive space about an upcoming birth.
If you are interested in learning more about energy work and how it can help you move past a negative birth experience, I am having a free online class to share more about how energy work can help you!
You will learn what energy work is. I will teach you some simple tools you can use on yourself and I will also take a volunteer or two and do a birth clearing demonstration during the class.
Please click here to sign up!
Birth is one of those things that is very fluid. Even if we prepare as much as possible, things sometimes come up which can make birth not so enjoyable. This can sometimes make it hard to let go and move past the birth experience.
Is there an easy way to move past a birth experience and shift to a more positive outlook on what happened?
This was a question I often asked myself. I had as I spent years trying to move past my first birth, which was traumatic for me and my son. He was a very angry little boy and I just kept feeling that it stemmed from his birth. I also was in a lot of fear of losing him from the birth and so I mothered him in a very controlling way. Which created this interesting cycle and it wasn’t very healthy.
I went to traditional therapy, but the therapist didn’t really understand what the problem was and after 2 or 3 sessions I realized it wasn’t going to help. I got therapy for him and it didn’t seem to help either.
I kept praying and searching. There had to be a way to shift, there had to be a way to move past that experience.
Finally, when T1 was 8 years old the answer came.
It was at a class where someone was teaching about Energy Work, which I had never heard of before, what she taught was intriguing and when she asked for a volunteer, my hand shot up so fast! I was SO excited when she picked me. She did some releasing of emotions and other things. (I can’t remember exactly what.)
I did feel a little lighter when she was done, but I wasn’t sure if it would really make a difference. But, when I went home, T1 was different and so was I. That got me very intrigued. I started learning more and more about energy work. I read books and took classes. I started doing it on me and my son and eventually friends and now clients.
I feel like Energy Work was the key to help me have a much healthier relationship with T1 and with myself!! I can now look back on his birth with neutral emotions, even gratitude for parts. He is a well adjusted, happy 19 year old, which is great to see.
I love working with moms and their kids who want to move past a birth experience.
It fits so well with my experiences supporting moms through pregnancy and birth. It is such a joy to be able help them in shifting to neutrality and often even up to positive emotions.
If you are interested in learning how to clear a negative birth experience, I am having a free class on August 17th to share more about energy work and how it can help.
I will also take a volunteer or two and do a demonstration during the class.
Please click here to sign up!
I was asked to do a review on the book Second Chance a mother’s experiences of 2 births. Her first was a hospital planned vaginal birth turned to cesarean and the book included her quest to have a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean). As a VBAC mom myself I of course was interested in her experiences.
I loved the way the book was written, with flashbacks to different points in her life. From childhood experiences to her first birth. I also appreciated that her second birth, while she was successful in her home VBAC, she needed a hospital transfer for a placenta issue. I love how she was able to handle that with grace. It showed that emergencies can be handled well with homebirths.
Help for Moms Struggling with Birth Trauma
I work with moms struggling with birth trauma. It is one of my favorite things to do, because the pain from birth trauma is often misunderstood. I love being able to talk with the moms and do emotional clearing for them. While reading Second Chance, I really wanted to be able to sit down with Thais and let her know that all she was feeling was normal and offer her some energy clearing to help her shift to a better place.
I was really happy when she found some support for her journey to healing. It is common for people to have to search out those experienced with birth trauma to find healing, as it isn’t often recognized or understood by many. As happened with her first experience with a therapist in trying to get help.
I really enjoyed reading Second Chance. It was well written and the story was good showing the many different aspects a mother may face in her quest for a VBAC. I appreciate that Thais was willing to open her heart and share her journey with us.
Give Away –
Leave a comment why you want to win the book and I will pick a winner on May 30th!
I was excited to try the ZenBand because I had a similar product that had recently accidentally gone through the washing machine with the bed sheets and had bit the dust. So I was thrilled to be able to try the ZenBand. (They were kind enough to send me one for free, so I could try it and write a review.)
I use sleep headphones when listening to hypnosis scripts at night while falling asleep, or in the middle of the night if I wake up and can’t fall back asleep.
I really enjoyed the ZenBand.
- The first thing I noticed was that it was comfortable. The seams are very small flat and are not noticeable when laying down. 🙂
- Also the sizing was nice, tight enough to stay in place, but not too tight. 🙂
- It can double as an eye mask. 🙂
- The sound quality was good. 🙂
- The ear pieces do move around quite easily within the bands. This can be good, because it is easy to get them in just the right place you want them on your ears. Which is great when I am awake and about to go to sleep. 🙂 However, in the middle of the night, it is challenging, because I am half asleep and it is harder to get them situated and since they move so easily they don’t stay in place from when I took them off in my sleep after originally falling asleep.
- The only other observation is that the headphone pieces are not as flat as the other brand I had, which makes it potentially not as comfortable if you are lying on your side. However, for me I like to listen on my back, so the ZenBand works well for me.
If you are using a hypnosis for childbirth program, sleep headphone bands like this are a great tool. You can get ZenBands here.
T3 is enjoying his week at Galileo Camp. He keeps asking me to sign him up for another one. He is especially interested in the Olympic week, obviously because the “real” Olympics are coming.
The week he signed up for is Toys and he has been having fun creating toys throughout this week. He is really excited to show me the pinball machine he is making.
There is still time for you to sign up your kids for Galileo camp. I love that it goes from 9-3 and you can add early drop off or late drop off. We usually do half day camps, so at first I thought the price was a bit steep, but once I realized it was ALL day it made sense. Also they still have a coupon for refer a friend and you can each save $100 if you both sign up.
Here is the pinball machine! Somehow when I edited the video the audio got messed up.
Here is the day of his birth.. sorry it is so long!
May 19th, Monday morning at 5am on the dot, I was waken up by some real strong pressure waves. I had been waking up at this time for the last few weeks, even though the alarm is always set for 7:00am so I didn’t think too much of it. I tried to close my eyes and go back to sleep but they were too strong. I decided to quietly jump in my huge tub and soak to try to get on top of them. I did some deep visualization and meditation for an hour. I didn’t take a watch with me but counted 12 during that hour with them only lasting about 30 seconds each. I decided to get out, head to the computer and use an on line timer. For some odd reason, none of them would work for me! I grabbed Dh’s PDA and started timing my pressure waves, I was so thankful he downloaded it and I knew how to use it. I was replying to a few emails and reading on my cloth diaper site when I happened to come across someone asking about hypnobabies home study course. I read a lil success story (sorry I can’t remember the name of the mama that wrote it) and remember breaking down into tears! It was so emotional and just gave me so much hope! I remember replying and thanking her. This was at about 6:30am.
I just had this weird “today is the day” feeling so I called my mom and told her I think we will have a baby today.. I thought she was getting tired of my false alarms as she told me to call her back at 8:00am. LOL. I got my hunny up a few minutes before the alarm went off just to talk to him. Got my boys up and told them that I think their brother would be born today. I went and jumped in the shower to try to relax a lil more as I was so nervous and overly excited, or more like just to kill time. Pressure waves were getting stronger and were about 3-5 minutes apart but were lasting 1-2 minutes. I found myself stopping what I was doing at the time and just closing my eyes and telling my body to open, open, open. That was when I guess I knew we had better head to the hospital. Dh took the boys to school as usual while I got dressed. It was then when I noticed a lil bloody show. I called my sister at 7:30am and told her that I wasn’t waiting until 8am to call mom and asked if she would make sure the boys were taken care of after school. Dh got back and was taking his time.. I think too many false alarms for him to take me seriously as well. I asked if he was was ready and he said, well.. no, I have an appointment at 10am. I told him I think we had better head in. I told him we were having this baby today, I can remember saying that there was no way I could go weeks of these type of pressure waves so something HAD to happen today!
I had no clue how far along I was or if these pressure waves were even doing anything so I was in the mind set of we are having this baby, even if she has to induce me today! I can laugh at all this now. Pressure waves were coming closer and I think Dh finally saw they were way different than all the other times. I called my Dr. to see if I should go to her office to see if I was even doing anything or head to labor and delivery. Her nurse told me to head to the hospital. I remember thinking.. yeah, just to be sent home again.. lol.. I am not too sure what happened next but I know it was a lil after 8am before we finally got everything loaded in the car and got on the road. I listened to my hypnobabies “Easy First Stage” cd during the car ride. I don’t remember much as I spent the whole ride with my switch in the off position.
We arrived at the hospital about 8:30am, we walked down to labor and delivery to be told that we needed to go to admit first.. by this time, my pressure waves were pretty strong and I can remember thinking to myself there is no way I am walking all the way back there.. I think I gave her a ‘are you kidding me’? look! Daddy reminded them that we had already done our pre-admit and luckily one of the nurses saved us and took us into the birthing room. The rest happened so fast it is kind of a blur to me so daddy will have to fill in where I can’t remember. I am sure I told them that I was GBS+ although I don’t think they thought I was as far dilated as I was.. of course how could they, I had no clue if this was even real! The first nurse, Dana, hooked me up to the monitors and then tried to check me. She said, alright then.
I asked how far I was and she said all she could feel were membranes. Then she called Terri in to check. She said the same thing and that they weren’t going to try any more because they weren’t ready to have the baby. I was in DUH mode and asked what that meant. I was thinking I was MAYBE 3-4cm! They said they couldn’t feel my cervix and they weren’t sure if my membranes were in front of it or if I was fully dilated..they made it sound like they thought my membranes were just infront and that we had plenty of time. I think that is why they didn’t get me hooked up to the IV.. they just sat there talking and watching the monitors. I reminded them again about being GBS+. About that time they actually heard me! Dana was trying to hook me up to the IV when my Dr got there.
She checked me and this is where I let my fear take hold of me. I heard her tell the other nurses to call surgery and have them on stand by. About that time, Daddy walked in and heard that, I was focusing and don’t remember were he went. I guess there was a TON of water below the baby’s head. Enough that the cord could slip down and come first. They sat me up so that gravity would do it’s thing and we crossed our fingers that his head would beat the cord first. I fought through the urge to push for what felt like forever..thinking back, I think I had the urge when I first got there and all it did was grow stronger. I think if I would have just relaxed and pushed, my fear wouldn’t have taken over me as much as it did. I started asking, no begging for something to take the edge off, although I didn’t need anything for pain, I was having trouble relaxing. I was scared to see which would come first.. the cord or my baby’s head.
About that time, my water broke. I guess my body was pushing and I didn’t even know as I was hugging my birthing ball and trying to stay focused. They rushed me to lay down to see what happened and I can remember my Dr saying there is a bunch of hair! Dh actually looked which he said he didn’t want to. My focus was on him at this time although he had no clue I was even listening! I remember the
nurses were so loud, not that we even had time to get our birthing plan out, let alone have them read over it. I guess I asked them to “PLEASE be quite”! As much as I was trying to not push my body started anyway. Daddy kept giving me progress reports during my pushing. After three pushes, at 9:38am we were both looking at our baby Caden! Both Daddy and I just looked at each other and talked about how tiny he looked! He looked soo purple! The Dr. had to explain it to us that when my water broke, his head was slammed hard down the canal causing his face to be bruised.
My Dr. let the cord stop pulsing and Daddy cut the cord. I was so happy she stuck with my birthing plan even after giving me a hard time about having a 20 page plan as I was in such a daze I wouldn’t have remembered anything at that moment! We spent time all bonding and just staring at what we thought was our tiny lil joy. When he was finally weighed and measured, he was perfect! 7 pound 11.8 ounce 19 inches long.. 10 fingers and 10 toes. Black wavy hair just like Daddy’s! The worst part about everything was I wouldn’t let Dh leave my side.. therefore, the camera was still in the car! That and I didn’t get time to make brownies!
Thank you for reading, Lisa